Monday, February 28, 2011

Letting GO..

It's often hard to forget someone we love....
Because deep inside, it's the last thing that we want to do.
It is easy to say, but it's always difficult to let go of something so precious to us.
When someone becomes part of us, that person gets a little piece of our life
that's never easy to fill with just anyone else.
That is the reason why it is always painful to let go of our feelings for that certain person.
What's sad about love?
It's when you happen to know that there's just no hope for you being together.
Yet you still hope and pray that something good might happen for both of you one day.
It's when your mind says Let go.... But your heart says Hold on....
If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past behind.
He/She can never be yours.
You simply have to accept that reality.
If you keep hoping for the things that could have been yours,
then you will forever be a prisoner of your own dreams.
You will never find true happiness because you are detached from reality.
We should remember that when we love, never stick to only what our heart feels.
Sometimes, using our brain is a necessity.
Why do some people choose to love a cheater rather than a good one?
Why do we always believe they're good when they're not?
Because in Love....
You can't see the bad reality of things unless you get hurt by them.
You'll suddenly realized how bad that person is.
That's the pathetic part of being in love.
Sometimes, even the worst person in the world can be the best person for your own belief.
It is not wrong to love, but....
The problem with loving too much is not the fact the one you love doesn't give a damn
or doesn't love you as much as you do,
but it is the question that will forever hurt you every time you ask:
"Where do I failed? " D
We read quotes everywhere, friends told us that
When we love...we shouldn't give everything.
We must leave something for ourselves, so that when the relationship ended
it won't hurt so much that all we have to do is cry.
It is easy to say..but once you're already in that kind of situation,
you won't notice what you have done to the person.
The only thing you care about is you're happy with that person.
Until the day when everything fails you realized nothing's left for you to hold.Love is a game....Sometimes, we miss and get hurt.
But that doesn't keep us from taking the chance again.Yes, it is hard to accept that the person whom you think can
give you all the definition of happiness have to go.
But you can't change the past.We can't go back and manipulate things to the way we want it to happen.Because life would be meaningless and boring if we get all the things we want.But we can change the future and that's a beautiful thing about life.We all make mistakes, and we will have bad days, but as long as we let our past go
we will have a beautiful and bright future ahead of us.
Knowing that each day, we will learn something so that we keep growing to be 
a better person.
Life is like a rope, twined in all it's complexities and yet weave into one marvelous 
stream, that we have the chance to use something from.
Letting go is about learning that we have a choice.
We can choose to be hopeful rather than hopeless.
We can choose to act from faith rather than react from fear.
And we can choose to enjoy life rather than merely survive it.
There's no right or wrong when one choose to be happy.
it's just a battle between one's own happiness and the judgement of others.
As time goes by, life has a way of rearranging itself.
People enter your life, and inevitably, they leave as well.
Things have a tendency to happen that can turn our world upside down.
We’ll come to realize eventually, that even though things are different, we are as well.
Sometimes, no matter how much faith we have, we lose people.
But we never forget them.
And sometimes, it's those memories that give us the strength to go on.

Confusing..

This world is so confusing....
You're waiting for the one you Love....
When the one who Loves you is waiting for you.
But here's much more confusing than that.
He Loves you,You Love him,
but for some reason fate doesn't allow both you to be together.
Why is it that when you Love....
You look like a fool?
Is it because you became wrong, when you're already right?
Is it because you became frail, when to think, you're very strong?
Is it a because you give everything without asking anything in return?
Or is it because you're happy even when you're hurt?
Love can give you much pain....Can make you cry....
And can even destroy your life....
But why do we still want to be in-love?
Which is harder?
Teaching yourself to love the person who loves you?
Or forcing the one you love to love you?
Love can never be wrong.....
Sometimes, we blame the situation or even the person.
But no matter who we blame,if it really isn't meant for us....
It just wouldn't be.

WE SHOULD:
....never expect,
....never demand,
....never assume.
WE SHOULD KNOW:
....our limits where we stand our role.
DON'T:
....get affected,
....get jealous,
....get paranoid.
WE'LL JUST:
Go with the flow and stay happy.

Love Is....



Love is something which cannot be overuled nor enslaved...
nor dictated or mandated.. insisted nor begged or obliged and required...
None can make it follow or disobey one's rule...
For, love itself is its master and its slave.... 
Love says: "Don't tell me when or who or how to love...
for, it is me who holds your heart..
I give your heart a beat that you may breathe..
I give your heart the song that you may hear music...
and I give you love, myself... that you may smile...and live..! "
Love gives life its meaning ..
significance to one's being ....and worth / sense for living....

Love never gives a guarantee of permanence.
But it always gives hope.
Love doesn't promise forever, 
but it gives us faith to believe.
Love makes us cry,
but the tears that it brings can breathe a new life,
a new beginning and a new hope to those who believe....
Love isn't love until you give away. 
But love will only have life 
when it is shared by two people who believe in its meaning, 
by people who share one goal, one commitment, 
and by people who are selflessly loyal to each other.

Sometimes, things are not what they seem to be...
Oftentimes, we regard something as it is, merely based on our own perception,
way of thinking and understanding failing to realise that every spoken word may have different meanings...
every shown gestures may signify differently and every message may have different sense / interpretation.
More often that not... we face disappointments because we perceive things the way they shouldn't be...
interpret words wrongly.... Sad to say the fact that sometimes,
we fail to see the truth that lies deep in one's heart, .... 
When I say blue, it doesn't mean a hue...
If I say I like orange I may not mean the fruit...
and when I say I love Thee... it doesn't mean...
a You or a He must spare some love for me....!

I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again
and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new,
What is broken is broken - and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it
and see the broken places as long as I lived..!!
We enjoy warmth because we been cold..
We appreciate light because we been in darkness..
By the same token, we can experience joy because we have known sadness....!!
Life at least, allows us to live...
experience existence that we need...
at times, it's really tough but at least we have some times to laugh...
we make mistakes that enable us to learn... and live a life full of memories...
sometimes, good .. at times bad but not as bad as not having them ....

Sunday, February 27, 2011

10 Ways to Reduce the Hurt Caused By Breakup..

A breakup is one of the most painful times of in your life. This pain is more if we are dumped compared to the pain experienced when we dump someone. For many of us, the pain of breakup is very intense. Here are some ways to avoid pain after the breakup.

1. Avoid your ex completely:
The most important thing to keep in mind right after the breakup is that spending time with your ex would constantly remind you of all the good times of your relationship and hurt you even more. If you call, email, text or try to meet your ex constantly, you will be termed as a stalker and lose even the remotest of the chances that the two of you have of being together once again. The best possible way is to completely steer clear of your ex and try and avoid communication among the two of you.

2. Allow yourself to feel pain:
The first result of a breakup is intense pain. If you are suffering a breakup, don’t avoid the pain, but to realise that the pain is good for you. It is natural to feel pain when you lose someone who had a lot of importance in your life. When you feel pain, it is almost like a sign saying that you are on the process of healing. There is no need to panic in such a situation. The best advice to overcome the pain would be to give in to it and let it have a positive impact in your life. The pain post breakup can be a source of inspiration for you to do something better, that you have always wanted yourself to do.

3. Keep yourself busy:
The best way to avoid post breakup blues and thoughts about your ex is to keep yourself busy all the time. The mind will not think if you do not give it time to wander. Keep yourself constantly involved in different types of activities. Pick up those activities that you love doing. This will remove your focus from the breakup to the activities you love. Activities will not only freshen up your mind and relieve you of the pain but they will also help in causing a diversion for your mind and would keep you away from thinking or even trying to keep yourself from contacting your ex.

4. Speak about your feelings only to a close friend:
It is a bad idea to talk about your breakup to each and every friend of yours as they will eventually start avoiding you, thinking that you have nothing to talk except the breakup. On the other hand it would be a wise decision to pick up one friend who you think will understand your thoughts and your feelings and will listen patiently to all that is on your mind. Remember that your close friends can be your greatest support system when it comes to breakup and they would honestly give you the best advice. Use this support system to the fullest and talk to your best friend when you feel post breakup blues.

5. Pen down your thoughts:
Maintaining a journal post breakup is a good idea. Writing is one of the good ideas to vent out all the hidden pain, frustration and anger that the breakup brings with it. Maintaining a journal would release lot of hidden pain from your heart and head. After you recover from the breakup, it would also be an insight as to how much you have evolved as a person. There is no substitute for writing when it comes to getting out one’s feeling as you can keep editing your writing about your hurt.

6. Meditation:
Meditation is an old technique to relax a tense mind. Closing our eyes and forcibly extracting each and every thought from our mind is the essence of meditation. These thoughts would be very difficult to ignore but we need to give ourselves the time to clear the clutter in our mind. Only then will there be any scope to sort out ourselves and move ahead in life for the better.

7. Take care of your family:
Your family is one of the biggest support system that you may have in your life. They would stand by you through thick and thin and would try their best to help you cope with the post breakup pain. Keeping yourself constantly involved with your family would not just keep you busy but would also ensure that you have people to stand by you when you have those gut wrenching feelings of grief and that you give them quality time and bond with them. Your family understands your needs more than anyone else.

8. Throw away all memories:
One of the ways to try and forget your ex is by throwing away each and every of those things that you may feel is reminding you of him/her. It is a difficult thing to do but it would be a start to forget all those times the two of you spent together. If you had been given a ring during the relationship, it is always a good idea to give the ring back than keep it yourself to dig up the scars of the broken relationship. Giving expensive gifts back after the breakup would also show to your ex how respectful you are of your own self and that you did not remain in the relationship for the expensive gifts that you received.

9. Focus on your career:
Try and make your career the most important aspect in your life. There is no bigger a high than being successful in life. Efforts to build your career would keep you busy for something that you will reap rewards in the future. It would also show everyone that you are not a coward as you did not cower down after a sour relationship. Many people hide themselves under the sheets and lose out on their life and eventually lose out on their respect too. However, the ones who emerge successful after a broken relationship are the ones who are respected the most.

10. Give yourself time:
It is essential to give yourself enough time. You must realize that nobody recovers from the grief of a breakup in a jiffy. It takes days and months before seeing any signs of recovery. It all depends on the type of person you are and how you can handle negativity in your life. Do not try to go in another relationship right after a breakup. It is important to think clearly and give yourself enough time before getting back into the dating scene after a breakup.

These are some important aspects that one has to keep in mind after a breakup.The main task is to keep one’s pride and self-respect intact without letting anyone take advantage of you.

45 things a girl wants for but wont ask for..

45 things a girl wants for but wont ask for.

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!
WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.
ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.
REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

45 things a girl wants for but wont ask for.

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!
WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.
ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.
REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.